When I talk to people involved in a conflict, often both tell me they feel powerless. It is a very common perception.
We have seen lots of information about using mediation to reduce the costs of resolving disputes. Now in Ontario if you do not use mediation, it could cost you money.
The feeling that you are not being listened to is very frustrating. Relationships have been ended because of this feeling, in families, in workplaces and in business.
First there was guerilla warfare, then the concept was expanded to non-military ideas like guerilla marketing and guerilla bloggers. Now we have guerilla bridge building.
Conflict management skills are important for a leader no matter what the job title is. Left to fester, conflict can spread in the organization, consume resources, and become even more difficult to resolve.
What should First Nations do when disagreements arise about treaty rights? An new hybrid dispute resolution process is described in a recent issue of Macleans magazine. Authors John Beaucage, Alicia Kuin, and Paul Iacono have developed a culturally sensitive team approach for resolution of disputes in support of reconciliation.
Next time you are experiencing a difficult conflict try thinking about how you and the other person are thinking. When I read a recent post by Buster Benson I was struck by how cognitive bias contributes enormously to my day-to-day world of resolving conflict. Understanding more about cognitive bias certainly improves our conflict resolution skills.
“When the other side seems to hold all the cards, how you negotiate is absolutely critical.”
Maybe it’s something about the bleakness of winter. In the last few weeks I have had several people ask me variations of the question, “How do I negotiate when the other person has a lot more power than me?”
Holiday season can be a time when the things that divide us seem much harder to deal with. Especially when alcohol consumption is part of the event, holiday gatherings can be very challenging with family, friends, or co-workers who don’t share our views. It helps to approach the holidays with a Holiday Peace Plan to make sure our holiday conversations are peaceful and communicate the level of thoughtfulness that we would like.
The Global Pound Conference event was held in Toronto on October 15, 2016, the only Canadian venue.
Participants with an interest in the legal system are invited to join a world-wide, 15-month-long conversation being convened by the International Mediation Institute. There are currently 40 events planned in 31 countries starting in Singapore in March 2016 and ending in London, U.K. in July, 2017.
Build your conflict resolution skills this fall ! Still space in Fundamentals of Mediation starting September 28.
According to a survey by the American Management Association, managers typically spend at least 24% of their time managing conflict. Based on my own experience this estimate seems low.
What was not included were the statistics about how many managers fear conflict or struggle to manage conflict. And then there is the impact of mismanaged conflict on other employees, on workteams and on the business itself, whatever the mission of the organization is.