It seems simple to say that we cannot control others’ behaviour. All we can control is our own behaviour. Even though the concept is simple, it is very hard to avoid slipping into the thinking patterns of common workplace complaints: their bad behaviour made you respond in kind; you are the innocent victim; you can’t or don’t want to speak up when your dignity is violated.
Mediator Education Program
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Fundamentals of Mediation
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Mediation Beyond the Basics
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Advanced Mediation
Workplace
Manage Marijuana Conflict without Pain
The use of marijuana may be coming to your workplace as a prescribed medication. This issue challenges employers and employees to balance the human rights of an employee prescribed a medication with the health and safety issues linked to the use of that medication. What follows are some practical steps to resolve that conflict.
Listen Your Way Through Impasse
Impasse is a normal part of conflict. Typically it is not the result of negative personalities or bad behavior. Sometimes people only recognize their conflict when they reach impasse. Could their NO become YES to a mutually satisfactory agreement?
Anger Mastery: Taking the Fear Out of Anger
What triggers anger? In this realm perception is reality. Yes, it’s all in your head. Whether we feel anger, anxiety, sadness or joy in a certain situation is a result of the meaning we assign to it.
What Do 2 Rights Make? – Mediation of Competing Human Rights
How do you resolve conflicts where both people claim a human right applies to them?
Some of the most complex and difficult human rights cases involve issues like these.
Thoughts for the New Year
May the close of 2013 be a season of glad traditions and happy memories for you – and may your New Year be filled with contentment and peace.
In the spirit of the season here’s a little story which I hope you enjoy.
An elder Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life…
Was That an Apology ?!
Whether at a personal level or as a leader of an organization, apology is one of the most powerful ways to defuse and move on from a mistake or a negative situation. Apologizing well is a quality of good leadership, effective conflict management and just plain old-fashioned good manners.
Apology was prominent in the news recently when Toronto Mayor, Rob Ford, apologized on several occasions about his own behavior.
A Perspective on Truth and Conflict
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
When we find ourselves in a conflict, it is even more important to remember that we see the world from our own eyes. The challenge for those of us trying to resolve conflict is to set aside our own picture while we take the time to listen and understand the other person’s “truth”.
Mediator Education Program
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Fundamentals of Mediation
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Mediation Beyond the Basics
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3
Advanced Mediation