Being unconditionally constructive means that in a relationship with you, I should do only those things that are both good for the relationship and good for me, whether or not you reciprocate. Being unconditionally constructive is a way to describe the basis for a good working relationship whether it is between nations, organizations, or individuals, and whether the relationship is long-term or a one-time negotiation. It does not matter whether they follow my example; I choose how I will work with them.
Conflict in a workplace is unavoidable. The ability to deal effectively with conflict is an important skill for everyone in a workplace and is essential for leadership.
Trying to avoid conflict is the least helpful method for dealing with workplace conflict. Rarely does conflict disappear when ignored. It is much more likely to escalate, to blow up a small problem into a much larger event.
When I talk to people involved in a conflict, often both tell me they feel powerless. It is a very common perception.
It seems simple to say that we cannot control others’ behaviour. All we can control is our own behaviour. Even though the concept is simple, it is very hard to avoid slipping into the thinking patterns of common workplace complaints: their bad behaviour made you respond in kind; you are the innocent victim; you can’t or don’t want to speak up when your dignity is violated.
The single biggest issue facing family business is succession. One of the biggest fears of the founder generation is conflict. What can a business owner do to help manage the conflict or potential conflict when considering the transition of their business within the family?